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What happened?  I know there were some mean SimSecrets about medlemisty's story and in the most recent one someone seemed to attack her directly in entry 009.  I didn't generally read comments on her blogs and I only commented once on thethingitself, but I tried to be respectful in my reply to something I didn't agree with because my world view is different from hers.  I didn't attack her view, I just explained how my experience was different from hers and why I felt the Sims community came from a larger economic base than she thought it did.  

I do not think the people who I have on my friends list and are most likely to see this would be the cause of whatever made her decide to leave and I may still make a secret about this just to bring the issue public because I don't think what some people are doing is acceptable behavior. Yes we may be online, yes, you most likely will never meet these people face to face, and yes, you will most likely never be held responsible for your action, but those actions still have consequences and can hurt someone's feelings enough to make that person withdraw from the community they may have initially felt accepted by. I am not saying you have to agree with everything everyone say, but if the only way you feel you can respond to someone is by calling them batshit then it would be best if you just didn't say anything at all to that person, just move on and let it be.

I know I have been lucky in not getting any negative comments on my stories, or at least nothing to the level that I would feel offended by, and I understand people wanting to vent their feeling about something, but please, find some way of expressing yourself with a little more respect. I have tried to state this as respectfully as I can and I have vented some of my frustration with this issue to my husband because I regularly talk to him about The Sims community and normally I have nothing but good things to tell him, but this, this made me upset. I am just sorry I didn't say anything sooner, before she felt she had to leave.
 
 
 
 
 
 
I tend to avoid drama as possible, so usually don't get too involved.

I am usually not one to get into the online drama was well because I know it does nothing but go downhill and no one ever wins really. While we know now that it was not the SimSecrets that caused the withdrawal and instead was one specific person, I still feel that the point in the post is a valid one.

One thing I try to keep in mind is that most of the people making hate secrets are kids, just kids most probably under the age of 15, and the most immature kind of kids too (because I've also meet amazingly mature/centered teenagers around here as well). There's no FUN in respect and behavior/manners for them, and certainly keeping the bad opinions for themselves must be extremely BORING in their pov.

This is one of the reasons I spend so little time on The Sims 2 BBS now, I used to live there, but it got ridiculous with all of the petty arguments that started. I have always been considered mature for my age in my behavior and I have always gotten along better with adults even when I was a child so I guess in my world view I do not understand the joy in trying to torment someone specifically for the purposes of fun. I have seen some teenagers and under who have been jerks for lack of a better word and I have even seen at least one of them seem to turn around and while not a saint, at least seems to think more before speaking and does not have the knee-jerk reaction to every post that the users do not agree with.

As for Misty, I do hope she comes back, but of course is up to her. Its cruel and sad to say so, but you (general you) do need to keep a shields up to survive around here, specially when you get popular O_o (it's even sadder to read that seemed to be a problem with a friend, tho)

I do agree that you need to keep a shield up to survive, anywhere really, but especially online. I have always been one to state what I think without regard for what others may also think on the matter and I am amazed it has not gotten me in more trouble because I have not been afraid to say things to someone's face (in real life) in regards to what I thought about them. I try to back up anything I say with facts/information that lead me to my opinion, but I know that it is just my opinion and not everyone is going to share it no matter how much I explain it. I also avoid making comments on other peoples journals that just sound like they are begging for a reply (which I have seen many do here, baiting people into an argument) because I know it is just not worth the effort. From this there are certain types of stories I just don't reply to no matter how much my head is screaming something is wrong/pointless in the storytelling of the author.

I think since her withdrawal was because of a friend and not the SimSecrets I will not make the one I have had floating in my head half the night, but I do hope that maybe someone saw them, and then saw that she left, and thought, you know, maybe we did take it just a little too far. I know that may be hoping for an amazing amount of maturing in one night on the part of one of the live journal users, but I will continue to be optimistic that someone learned something from this.
I know that may be hoping for an amazing amount of maturing in one night on the part of one of the live journal users, but I will continue to be optimistic that someone learned something from this.

Well, to be fair, is not only LJ user. Most of those hate secrets (again, not only about Misty, but in general) come from forums users/drama as well (and actually lately seem to be most of them).

And unfortunately I'd dare to say (hoping to be wrong) that the only thing these secret makers learned from this is either
a- We WIN
or
b- lame! she's gone, now we need someone else to pick on
nd unfortunately I'd dare to say (hoping to be wrong) that the only thing these secret makers learned from this is either
a- We WIN
or
b- lame! she's gone, now we need someone else to pick on


Sadly, you are probably correct on this.