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What happened?  I know there were some mean SimSecrets about medlemisty's story and in the most recent one someone seemed to attack her directly in entry 009.  I didn't generally read comments on her blogs and I only commented once on thethingitself, but I tried to be respectful in my reply to something I didn't agree with because my world view is different from hers.  I didn't attack her view, I just explained how my experience was different from hers and why I felt the Sims community came from a larger economic base than she thought it did.  

I do not think the people who I have on my friends list and are most likely to see this would be the cause of whatever made her decide to leave and I may still make a secret about this just to bring the issue public because I don't think what some people are doing is acceptable behavior. Yes we may be online, yes, you most likely will never meet these people face to face, and yes, you will most likely never be held responsible for your action, but those actions still have consequences and can hurt someone's feelings enough to make that person withdraw from the community they may have initially felt accepted by. I am not saying you have to agree with everything everyone say, but if the only way you feel you can respond to someone is by calling them batshit then it would be best if you just didn't say anything at all to that person, just move on and let it be.

I know I have been lucky in not getting any negative comments on my stories, or at least nothing to the level that I would feel offended by, and I understand people wanting to vent their feeling about something, but please, find some way of expressing yourself with a little more respect. I have tried to state this as respectfully as I can and I have vented some of my frustration with this issue to my husband because I regularly talk to him about The Sims community and normally I have nothing but good things to tell him, but this, this made me upset. I am just sorry I didn't say anything sooner, before she felt she had to leave.
 
 
 
 
 
 
I am glad to here she is coming back. I also sent her a message last night after posting this just to make sure she is okay since I have seen people withdraw online and in real life once something like bullying occurs. She did reply and seemed to appreciate that people were concerned.

While I am glad to know it was not a SimSecret that caused her to withdraw, I still think those things can be very hurtful and I do wonder if any of the secret makers that seem to revel in the hate secrets ever consider what they are doing.